3 Steps To Give Without Burnout

If you are anything like me, a high-achieving, people-pleasing, perfectionist who is also extremely empathetic, there is a good chance you are either burnt out or on the road there...

Why? Because these qualities that lend themselves to traditional success, often have us giving at all costs (even our own well-being).

I wanted to share with you these 3 essential steps and practices that have helped me care for others without shouldering the burden of their pain and hardships.

Step 1: Shifting Our Mindset about Pain and Hardship

When we recognize pain and hardship as part of the growth journey, we can approach others' struggles with a different perspective. Instead of feeling compelled to fix them, we can acknowledge their experiences as an integral part of their personal growth. Understanding that people are not broken but broken-hearted allows us to offer validation and acceptance, rather than trying to provide unsolicited advice or judgment.

Step 2: Letting Go Physically

Our bodies hold energy, including the emotions and experiences we absorb while listening to others. After engaging in heartfelt conversations, it's crucial to release that energy. Take a moment to breathe deeply, inhaling love and exhaling pain. Take your hands and literally brush off any residual energy from your body, as if removing dust, and then shake it off, just like a dog would. Conclude with a cleansing breath, allowing yourself to let go of what is not yours to carry.

Step 3: Filling Yourself Back Up with the 3 P's

Play, pleasure, and personal expression are key to replenishing ourselves after offering support. Engage in activities that bring joy and stimulate your senses. Embrace playfulness through dance parties, creative hobbies, or exploring new recipes. Find pleasure in indulging your senses, savoring delightful scents, tastes, textures, sounds, and sights. Finally, embrace personal expression through art, music, writing, or any medium that allows you to authentically express yourself.

Remember, by caring for ourselves, we can show up more fully and authentically for others. It's a beautiful dance of compassion and self-care that creates a positive ripple effect in our lives and the lives of those we touch.

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