Master the Art of Communication and Ditch the Drama

Last week, I shared a powerful teaching from The Compassion Code Academy on ditching drama and fostering healthier connections. Today, I want to delve deeper into a game-changing concept—the "preframe"—that my clients boast will completely transform your communication and set you up for success like never before.

A pre-frame is an invitation for others to meet you where you are. Sharing vulnerably allows them to see you as a human and takes away the guesswork of having productive communication. Imagine that you sharing what is true for you is like offering them the opportunity to ride the elevator with you instead of them having to take the stairs.

When we begin utilizing the pre-frame, we set ourselves and others up for success even more. By setting expectations appropriately, realistically, and kindly, you increase the likelihood of achieving the outcomes you desire while inspiring others to do the same.

When we neglect to pre-frame, we risk setting ourselves and others up for failure, disappointment, resentment, resistance, and disconnection. However, by simply taking a moment to share your intentions, you can completely shift the conversation in a positive way and pave the way for healthy communication.

Let's envision a scenario: You walk into a doctor's office. Instead of the typical form and clipboard, the office manager warmly greets you, saying, "Hello [Your Name], thank you for visiting us today. The doctor is running about 15 minutes behind this morning. We apologize for any inconvenience. Please relax in our lounge, where you'll find water and coffee. Your choice to entrust us with your healthcare is truly appreciated." These 20 seconds can work wonders, particularly for someone feeling nervous, overwhelmed, anxious, or time-strapped.

Here is one of my favorite pre-frame that I use often, "Hey, I want to share something important with you; is this a good time? If not, let me know when is. I don’t want to interrupt, and I want your undivided attention.”

If you're ready to ditch the drama in your life and become a more masterful communicator, even in challenging conversations, I invite you to apply for our upcoming cohort of The Compassion Code Academy.

This transformative communication and leadership training will empower you to improve relationships, communication skills, and overall happiness and success. Only 6 spots are available in this cohort, so apply now to secure your spot.

Don't forget to try out the pre-frame technique—it will revolutionize your communication!