The Antidote To Perfectionism

For many years, I have been on a path to overcome people-pleasing, approval addiction, and perfectionism. These are deeply ingrained habits that can be challenging to break.

The antidote to all three?

Self-compassion.

Recently, this journey has shown up in my parenting. While I strive to be a loving, present, thoughtful, and caring mother, I also find myself battling impatience, frustration, disappointment, and distraction. My boundaries can sometimes feel spiky, and I don’t like it when I am unkind—neither do my kids. Yet, I am human.

I hold myself to a ridiculously high standard in all areas of my life: as a mother, a wife, a friend, a sister, a daughter, a leader, a coach, and a business owner. The reason I teach self-compassion is because it is my daily work. Being gentle with myself when I am not perfect can be tough. Sometimes, being human is tough.

However, if I am passionate about everyone feeling their feelings, I must remember that I am someone, too. My feelings matter.

When you are the one who gives, it can be hard to remember to give to yourself. This is your reminder: You deserve compassion, too.

As you navigate your own journey, I encourage you to practice self-compassion. Be gentle with yourself, acknowledge your humanity, and remember that you, too, are deserving of the love and care you so freely give to others.